YOU'RE NOT BROKEN. YOU'RE JUST STUCK.
And the way you've been trying to fix it is part of the problem.
Therapy in San Jose, California
Is This You?
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You put in long hours to avoid being discovered as a fraud at work. Despite everyone telling you how smart and capable you are, that's not how you feel inside. You feel exhausted, broken, and unseen. The harder you work to prove yourself, the more isolated you become.
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Your body is carrying the weight of this tension. You can't calm down enough to sleep well, lying awake at 3am, mind racing. Or maybe it shows up as chronic headaches, digestive issues, or that constant wired feeling. You know the stress is destroying your health, but you don't know how to stop.
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On paper, your life looks fine. But nothing feels like it matters anymore. You're going through the motions, meetings and deadlines and obligations, but it all feels flat and meaningless. You're just numb, running on autopilot, wondering when you started feeling so disconnected.
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To everyone else, you have it together. You meet deadlines, pay your bills, show up. But you know the truth: you're using more than you want to, and it's getting harder to hide. You've tried moderating. You've tried rules. Nothing sticks. Maybe you've quit before, but sobriety alone wasn't enough. The anxiety and patterns that drove you to use are still there.
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The distance between you and your partner keeps growing, and you don't know how to close it anymore. Conversations have turned into logistics and tension. One of you works too much, the other feels invisible, and you're both too tired to fight about it. You've tried talking, but the same patterns keep repeating. You wonder if this is just what long-term relationships become, or if you're supposed to keep trying to fix something that feels this broken.
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Your kid is showing signs of the same anxiety, perfectionism, depression, or emotional struggles you deal with. They're having trouble sleeping, melting down over mistakes, or withdrawing when stressed. You recognize these patterns because you live them. And you're terrified you're passing this on to them.
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You’ve learned how to function at a high level. You hit deadlines, say the right things, and people see you as capable. But it takes constant effort to keep it together. You’re exhausted from overthinking, second-guessing, and trying to stay one step ahead so nothing slips. Underneath, things feel harder than they “should,” and no amount of logic or discipline seems to fix it.
If any of this sounds familiar, you're not alone and you don't have to stay stuck.
What Makes This Different
You can't logic your way out of patterns that live in your nervous system.
Most of the people I work with have already tried. That’s why they’re here.
That's what I learned after 20 years in tech and 20 years in recovery. These stuck patterns (perfectionism, depression, overthinking, emotional suppression, substance use) don't live in your thoughts.
They live in your body, your automatic responses, your habitual behaviors. For many of the people I work with, especially those who are neurodivergent (ADHD, Autistic, often high-masking), this gap between insight and change is even more pronounced.
I didn't just study this. I lived it. I'm still in tech while building my therapy practice. I understand sprint planning, on call rotations, and why "just set boundaries" doesn't help when deadlines loom.
I know what it's like when you can't logic your way out, no matter how smart you are. When the thing that helped you cope becomes the thing that's killing you. When everyone thinks you're fine because you're "high functioning."
I survived burnout and a heart attack at 37. I rebuilt after divorce and financial loss. I figured it out by finally doing the uncomfortable, vulnerable work that thinking alone couldn't solve.
I work with people who are used to figuring things out and are now dealing with something that isn’t responding to effort, insight, or discipline. I'm not here to fix you. I'm here to get you unstuck.
We focus on what actually changes behavior, not just understanding why things are the way they are. You can't control your thoughts or feelings, but you can control your actions. That's what we work on.
How We Work Together
Individual Therapy
We focus on changing the patterns that are actually running your life, not just understanding them. We identify what’s keeping you stuck and work directly on changing it.
50 mins | $300
Child and Teen Therapy
We help children express what they cannot yet explain. Play and conversation build emotional regulation and confidence. For ages 4 through 17.
50 mins | $300
Couples Therapy
We work with the patterns between you that keep repeating, even when you both want something different. We address emotional distance, trust issues, and communication. You both take responsibility for change.
50 mins | $300
Therapy Intensives
Longer sessions for faster progress. We use focused work to address major transitions or persistent patterns. For individuals and couples ready for concentrated change.
3 hours | Individual $900 \ Couples $900
Ready to Stop Just Managing
You don't have to figure this out alone. You don't have to keep pushing through. You don't have to wait until everything falls apart.
The hardest part is reaching out. After that, we'll figure it out together.
We'll talk about what's been hardest for you, what you want to change, and whether we're a good fit. No pressure. No judgment. Just a conversation.
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In-person and Remote Options
Christan Mercurio, AMFT
Email: cm@christanmercurio.com
Voicemails: (669) 240-0319
In Person:
Process Therapy Institute
1760 The Alameda #100, San Jose, CA 95126
Online:
New Path Couples Therapy Inc.
Serving:
San Jose, Campbell, Los Gatos, Willow Glen, Almaden Valley, Saratoga, Silicon Valley, and Santa Clara County
Coaching available globally for non-clinical work outside California.
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About Christan Mercurio, AMFT
Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist
20 Years in Continuous Recovery | 20 Years in Tech
I created this practice because I watched capable people stay stuck in patterns logic alone can't solve, ones that ripple through families.
